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书名：Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus
作者：John Gray
起始部份：第三章第一节上

Men Go to Their Caves and Women Talk

One of the biggest differences between men and women is how they cope with stress. Men become increasingly focused and withdrawn while women become increasingly _____1_____ and emotionally involved. At these times, a man's needs for feeling good are different from a woman's. He feels better by solving problems while she feels better by talking about problems. Not understanding and accepting these differences creates unnecessary ____2____ in our relationships. Here is a common example.

When Tom comes home, he wants to____3______ by quietly reading the news. He is stressed by the unsolved problems of his day and finds relief through forgetting about them.

His wife, Mary, also wants to relax from her stressful day. She, however, wants to find relief by talking about the problems of her day.__________________________4_______________________.

Tom secretly thinks Mary talks too much, while Mary feels ignored. Without understanding their differences they will grow further apart.

These problems can be resolved first by understanding in greater detail how men and women cope with stress. Let's again observe life on Mars and Venus and _____5_______ about men and women.

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参考译文：（于海生）

男人进入"洞穴"，女人滔滔不绝

男人和女人最大的差别之一，就是对待压力的方式不同。压力到来时，男人的精神和意志高度集中，变得沉默寡言；女人面对压力，一时间不知所措，她心情紧张，容易情绪化。男人摆脱压力，获得释放的方式，和女人完全不同。除非把问题解决，他一刻不得安宁。女人则不然，只要把问题说出来，就可以得到宣泄。男人和女人的不同，由此可见一斑。你必须理解它，不然在和伴侣的相处中，两个人很容易产生摩擦。比如，下面是一种常见的情形--

　　汤姆回到家里，想安静地阅读报纸，以求放松和解脱。白天的工作中，有些问题还没有解决。他想暂时忘记它们，获得轻松的感觉。

　　玛丽也想身心松弛，不过，她渴望当着汤姆的面，把想法和心情一一说出来，这样心里才舒服。两个人的需求不一致，气氛徒然紧张，甚至措辞激烈，演变为一场争吵！

　　汤姆认为玛丽太过罗嗦，而玛丽觉得汤姆漠视她的感受。他们没有意识到彼此的不同，感情越来越疏远了。

　　他们究竟该怎么办？他们要深入了解男人和女人对待压力的方式。让我们再次观察火星和金星上的面貌，获得男人和女人更多的秘密。